The Bear

Trailer: https://bit.ly/3ymjHbC

Oliver Platt is SO good in this I’d say to watch it just for him, even though his participation is limited. But during the party scene, watching him switch from angry to amenable, and him telling that story, PRICELESS! He seems like a regular guy, one you would know, like the rest of the characters in “The Bear,” not setting the world on fire, just living their lives.

This show got good reviews and excellent RottenTomatoes scores, so I put it on the list. Not that I read much about it, I just read the first and last paragraphs of reviews to see if they’re positive, because I like to go in cold, the experience is part of the magic of novels, TV and movies. Like life, you don’t know what is going to happen, you just decide to dive in.

But before we did…

I got e-mail. From one person saying he turned it off, because he didn’t like any of the people in the show, there was no one he could identify with, no one he could root for. WHEN DID THIS BECOME A THING?

I read a great tweet today by Taylor Lorenz, about there being a business in telling people what they want to hear, being optimistic, giving them hope. Especially in the music business. When I’m honest people hate it, they don’t want their dreams trampled upon. Even though in most cases they’re just dreams, they’re gonna give up long before they get close, because it’s just too much work. Why does everybody need to be boosted? And why do you need to identify with characters. Did you ever work in a restaurant, did your brother… It’s supposed to be fresh, it’s supposed to give you INSIGHT! And if it’s all negative, so what, so is so much of life. When people demand inspiration you usually end up with tripe.

And “The Bear” isn’t tripe.

But I’m not exactly sure what it is either.

You see it’s only four hours long, eight episodes, although the finale is a bit longer. It’s just a start. You mean I’m gonna have to wait a whole ‘nother year to see where this goes?

And since it’s an American show, you can predict the mood of the ending. Not that I’m revealing too much, I thought about this from the very first minute, American shows can’t leave you on a downer, I wish they would.

So Carmy takes over his brother’s restaurant, his family’s restaurant. The twist is Carmy is a legendary chef. Jeremy Allen White, who plays Carmy… I’ve never seen him before. But this is not the pre-internet era, where you know everybody’s backstory. I marvel at some actor’s performance, and then people tell me they were in some lowbrow network show… I haven’t watched network in decades. Literally. I’m looking for something spicier, more direct, in a narrower vertical. When you’re trying to appeal to a broad audience, you inherently lose me.

And what audience is “The Bear” shooting for?

I’m not exactly sure. But I’d say one that is looking for visceral entertainment.

So what you’ve got here is a deep dive into the workings of a restaurant. And as many shows as there have been about this, I’ve never seen anything close to this. It’s not feel good, pressure is high, nerves are shot, and everybody takes things super-seriously. This seems to be a characteristic of restaurants, they treat it like it’s life or death, like world peace hangs in the balance. And speaking of balance, it’s a balancing act getting everybody to deliver at the same time.

So it’s chaos. And it’s fascinating to watch. Is it appealing? To some people, maybe not. But to me? Yes. Because everybody’s caught up in their job, too many people work to live, as opposed to the opposite. There’s all this hogwash that Americans work too much, take their jobs too seriously, and I’ll say that vacations are critical, they rejuvenate you, but when it’s all on the line, that’s when it gets interesting to me. I’ve found this over and over again, people don’t want to take it as seriously as I do. Furthermore, I want to walk the fine edge. You know, the one if you push it too far you can fall over and fail. The magic for me is in that last one or two percent. That turn good, even very good, into excellent, INCREDIBLE! That’s why I buy the top of the line products in areas that are important to me. I use those features no one else does. I read the manuals. Do you know with Focus in the latest Mac OS, Monterey, if you mute your computer, IT AUTOMATICALLY MUTES YOUR iPHONE! May not sound like much, but it is. Assuming you don’t want to be interrupted, and when I’m writing, I don’t.

That’s one of the interesting scenes, at the high end restaurant, the head chef being boorish, having no tolerance for failure, needing it EXACTLY right, stuff you don’t think is really important, that most people won’t even sense. But it’s this little bit that people do sense, even if they don’t know what it is, that makes the end result TRANSCENDENT!

Like Oliver Platt’s performance. The way he laughs to himself and then laughs with the others. They’re two different things, he separates them, gets each of them right.

Then there’s Ebon Moss-Bachrach, who plays Richie, the “cousin” who is not. He’s been in a slew of stuff, but I know him as the boyfriend in “Girls,” the folk musician. He plays a somewhat similar role here, but here he’s a hothead, he’s over the top all the time. He’s highly strung. And you know people like this, they’re constantly screwing up, denying responsibility, biting back, making mistake after mistake, and then they ultimately admit it AND NOTHING CHANGES! As adults people abandon them, they’ve got fewer and fewer friends, they end up working at piss-poor jobs not because they’re dumb, or untalented, it’s just that NO ONE CAN GET ALONG WITH THEM!

Tina, the longtime employee who’s averse to change. She’s been doing it this way for years, and if you want to mess with it, she won’t do it, furthermore she’ll sabotage you. I don’t care how right you might be, getting workers to heed your advice is a huge hurdle.

And the guy who makes the cakes, who dreams of a bigger future as a baker. There are numerous players with different mentalities. You’ve got a small world here that takes everything and doesn’t deliver money so much as being part of a family.

So “The Bear” is kind of a drive-by. We want so much more. There’s all this set-up, and we want depth. We’ve been trained by streaming series. Movies? Two hours and they’re done, they’re separate from life in almost all cases. But series? You get to know the characters, you see and feel them living, you get much more invested, and you expect more!

Did you see that HBO Max just cut all European production? “Golden Life” was an HBO Max European production. This always happens, a new person comes in, in this case David Zaslav, and they think they know everything when they know so little. About HBO, CNN… When it comes to the arts, music, movies and TV, it can oftentimes be about one album, movie or TV show. No one bats 1,000. You’ve got to step up to the plate more than everybody else to win. You’ve got to give your creators free rein, you can’t be cheap, Netflix has the winning formula yet is constantly derided by the street, believing like Zaslav that it’s all about the money, making the trains run on time. Money is important, but you can balance the books in entertainment and go bankrupt. You can only win if you support artists. Let them do their thing. Where Netflix is king.

But “The Bear” is on Hulu. You should watch it. Like I said above, it’s not a huge commitment. Because it will affect you. And isn’t that exactly what we’re looking for in our entertainment?

Mailbag

From: James Spencer

Subject: Re: Ticket Prices-This Week On SiriusXM

If I had Sirius, I’d SO listen to this!

I do have some tips on how to shop for the “cutout” tickets in the bargain bin..Maybe you can share these with your audience..

I should note that I’m in the Vegas market, which may not be representative of the ecosystem at large..

(1) National Concert Week..

Log on at the opening bell, 7:00 AM, PT

$25 Tix, for many shows..Not exactly front row, but, hey..I logged on a few hours late this year, but seats were still available..

Doobies, Black Keys, Imagine Dragons, Rise Against, John Legend, Randy Rainbow, and many more..

 (2) Sign up for emails..AEG Presents, Live Nation, AXS, Ticketmaster,etc..Ditto, “like” the pages of the above companies on your “socials”..Also, like the pages of any venues you enjoy frequenting..You’ll also be privy to pre-sales and discounts..

(3) Peruse the Ticketmaster and AXS apps..Sometimes TM will offer a blanket %25, or more, discount..(Usually the final week of a residency.) Also a great way to know what shows are coming..

(4) Peruse the AARP app..The Doobies did a 25% off sale on ALL Vegas dates, before their run..Totally worth the $12 to join!

(5) Craigslist..It’s been very scammy lately, so beware..I’d recommend meeting at the venue..You DO get an accurate reading of what a ticket is worth on this site, for a frame of reference..

(6) Look into House Seats..You play a flat fee, and get last minute free show tickets, from undersold shows..Not always concerts, but could be worthwhile..

(7) Groupon..The almighty algorithm knows I’m shopping for events, so my “ad experience” showed me some amazing deals on concert tickets on Groupon..Nothing in MY market, yet, but definitely something to keep an eye on..Could be a godsend in other regions..

 (8) Showing up..Yeah, IRL..Like, AT the venue..Old school, right?

But it CAN work when all other avenues have failed..Of course, if ya’ DON’T get in, the heartache is even worse..

Here’s some recent examples..

An email from AEG Presents Las Vegas

Resorts World is “celebrating” it’s first year, and offering 2 for $100 on (slow time of the year) shows..

Katy Perry, Luke Bryan, Journey + orchestra, Enrique Iglesias, David Blaine..

Another email from them..

Summer holiday sale..Encore theater (Wynn)

and Virgin theater (former Hard Rock, Virgin Casino) While supplies last..(Enter code HOLIDAY)

$50-  Lionel Richie, Jim Gaffigan, Maxwell, Chris Tucker, David Gray, 3rd Eye Blind, Papa Roach, Leon Bridges, and more

2 for $50  -The Shins, Corrine Bailey Ray, Demitri Martin, the Night sweats, Deon Cole, Sal Vulcano, 80s review package show, etc..

Not too shabby! The deals are THERE, if you’re willing to do a little coupon cutting..

Somebody’s losing money here, but it ain’t ME!

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Subject: Re: Grosses

This is an amazing twitter account: 

Thought you would enjoy.

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From: Steve Bruns

Subject: Re: Get It Right Next Time

I’m sure you know this one, but I think it pre-dates “Baker Street”.  Would love to hear your take!

“Half a Heart”: https://spoti.fi/3bRZYsP

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From: Marty Bender

Subject: Re: It Don’t Matter To Me

After working in an independent record store, as well as both Peaches and Tower Sunset…

I ended up researching and doing the Top 200 Album chart for Cashbox.

In the 70’s, it was all done manually using only record store and one-stop “sales” reports.

 

The reports we received were almost entirely made up of new or recent releases.

Thus the chart reflected that.

(BTW: “Dark Side of the Moon” basically stayed on because we just sorta kept it there)

One day I convinced Cashbox management to let me take a crack at compiling a one-time catalogue LP chart. In addition to their regular sales report—

I asked all the main record stores in America to carefully keep track of the best-selling older/classic albums…

I also requested they include titles that seemed to consistently sell well…as well as constantly sell out.

It was a fascinating list.

The winner?

The number one?

“The Best of Bread”

Marty Bender

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From: ray yslas

Subject: Re: Mailbag

Date: June 21, 2022 at 2:13:09 PM PDT

Hi Bob,

This is Ray with the band Chicago, I play percussion, I got to say it was a thrill and honor to sing Happy Birthday to Brian yesterday backstage, a once in a lifetime for me.

Happy to see BW and the gang kill it every night on our tour. Hope you can see a show..

peace..

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Subject: RE: Brian Wilson 80th Birthday Playlist

Date: June 23, 2022 at 2:34:12 PM PDT

Hi Bob,

Thank you for “Brian’s Playlist,” and the “Brian Wilson Movie.”

I just finished playing and singing through Brian’s actual current playlist with him over FaceTime from our studio here in Los Angeles to his hotel room in Dallas. A day off on his tour. He still wanted to work with my husband Seth Riggs and myself, like we do. Seth and I work with Brian on his voice and vocals. Today we vocalized him down to F below low C and up to D above high C in a connected, mixed voice through the whole range. It’s more than 2 1/2 octaves. And we did twenty-four songs in our hour together. He sings all of them. I sing harmony – sometimes lead if he sings harmony (Surfer Girl and In My Room.) I play the piano. We do a couple of extra songs that he especially likes that happens to not be in the concert.

This week we did the same Monday, on his 80th birthday, to his hotel room in Kansas City, before he went to sound check and later to do his concert,  and Tuesday when he was in Arkansa we did the same. Yesterday was travel. Tomorrow and Saturday we will be at it again, before he takes off for Florida on Sunday.

Brian has challenges – but unlike most people, he doesn’t let that stop him. It’s not even on his mind. He wants to keep going, and with help he does. I feel we all have a lot to learn from Brian Wilson. He is a true inspiration in many ways. He still brings about optimism and hope not just through his music and the way he communicates complexities in a simple, direct way that hits you like when he sings “Love and Mercy,” but through his being. I feel blessed to work with him. Often through a session he says: “Thank you, Margareta.” I say: “Thank you, Brian.”

Margareta Svensson Riggs

http://www.theriggsvocalstudio.com

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Language Lessons

Trailer (but don’t watch it): https://bit.ly/3OFxpNN

I don’t have conversations like that anymore.

I don’t think anybody my age has conversations like that anymore.

Growing up is weird. Because you don’t realize you’re doing it. Oh, you’re eager, to hit double digits, to be a teenager, to have your twenty first birthday, to graduate from college, but after that it all runs together, the years keep passing, your features change, but you don’t realize it. Oh, in retrospect you’re aware, but on an everyday basis? No.

Your twenties.

It’s about having a real relationship, maybe your first, certainly your first out from under the wings of your parents. You’re making your own money, you’re living independently, you might be focused on your “career,” but really it’s all about friendships and love relationships in your twenties.

The first change is when you graduate from high school. So many of those people you never see again, even your best friends fade away. You develop new friends at college, and some of those sustain, but really it’s about the new people you know, who you have relationships with for years, maybe not love relationships, but friendships, that may not seem as deep as the ones you had in college, but these people you can depend upon, they come through for you, unless you’re a bad picker of friends.

Oh, you can be one of those who accumulates friends, who feels good about themselves because their Rolodex is full, but in truth, one good friend is enough. You know, the one you call when your parent dies. The one who knows who you are. The one who’ll be there for you.

But not enough people have this friend.

Or let me say they got older and the game changed and…

People start to get married, they peel off. And if you’re not married too, if you’re alone, you may still get invited, you may still get calls, but you’re an outsider, sometimes you’re invited but you don’t even want to go, because you don’t want to impose, you don’t want to feel like a fifth wheel.

And then those people have babies and make a whole new set of friends. And then so many of them get divorced.

Meanwhile, you’ve found your own path. Or maybe you haven’t. You don’t want to end up alone. I wish more people knew this. The older you get, the less meaningful the game becomes, it’s all about shared experiences, even more that there’s someone there for you, who’ll listen to you.

Everybody’s going through changes, it’s rare that people are on the same page as they age, until they get older, truly old. I’ll put that at 67. There’s no way that number is not old, you can’t convince yourself otherwise. For some reason 66 is different. 60 is bad in its own right, because that’s when you learn the game is b.s., you’ve seen the trick, you realize you’re going to die and what happens in between birth and death better be important to you, because it’s unimportant to everybody else.

There are people who think getting plastic surgery, dressing in young clothing, hanging with young people makes them young, but this is a lie. Because biology doesn’t know any of this. You may say forty is the new thirty, or sixty is the new forty, but in truth forty is forty and sixty is sixty.

But the dirty little secret is your perspective changes whether you want it to or not.

So, in your twenties you’re free and easy. You dread thirty, which ends up not being that bad, and for a couple of years thereafter you’re cool, but then you can see forty on the horizon, do you really want to hit that alone, do you want to have a baby, do you want to..?

But in your twenties you’re feeling it out. You stop feeling it it out in your late thirties and by time you hit the fifties, that paradigm starts to truly wither.

You want to get to know people, you want to connect, you want to know what life is about. And this is different from staying up all night b.s.’ing in college. Because now the stakes are real. And since you realize no one is paying attention, no one is keeping score, that there are no more grades, your life is ever more private. Even in the era of social media. What you share with another person… That magic is only between the two of you.

And you know when it happens.

Sometimes you feel the spark but it doesn’t catch fire, or the kindling starts to flame but then burns out. Keeping the fire going is not easy, and it’s all about sharing, being honest. And if you can’t do this, you’ll never have a relationship, at least not a satisfying one. Can you appear weak? Can you put forth your hopes and desires? Can you admit your failures…

There’s a whole language involved.

It starts with looks, and touch. And I don’t mean beauty, what I mean is the look the other person gives you, that they’re paying attention to you, that they’re connected.

And then you go exploring. And it’s a bumpy road. It’s dreamy at first, but everybody comes to connection with baggage. You can keep it light for a while, but then when you get down to the real nitty-gritty… A lot of people are hesitant, for the engine of the relationship to continue to purr one person has to continue to push, oftentimes self-consciously, drag the other person forward, keep them involved. And you keep building and building and…

Sometimes it flames out. Sometimes the fire is gone, but you stick together, endure the inertia, because it’s too scary to break up and go it alone, try to find someone better.

This sharing, this connection, is life. And you so rarely see it in today’s art. This is what the movies USED to be about. And you occasionally see it in streaming TV. This is what music was built upon, but braggadocio and saccharine narratives have superseded songs straight from the heart.

So I mentioned the Duplass brothers last week, and someone e-mailed me that I had to see “Language Lessons,” that it was on HBO Max.

We finally finished “Golden Life,” and it was too late to start another series, so we dove in.

All the values in today’s movies…absent. All the production values, the special effects, the whiz-bang…gone. As a matter of fact, most of the film takes place over the internet, via Skype, or Facetime, it’s not exactly clear, but it doesn’t make a difference.

I always want to know who someone is. That’s the most important thing to me. That’s why I prefer to talk to girls, because they’ll reveal their story, they’re comfortable digging down deep. Guys? WHY DO YOU WANT TO KNOW? Although you’d be surprised what guys will tell you if you ask and don’t interrupt, people love to talk about themselves.

And usually the connection happens when you don’t expect it.

This movie is about the connection between Adam and Cariño. It’s bumpy, but so is real life, fast and slow. But while you’re watching your mind will drift to your own experiences, you’ll see your whole life laid out, you’ll jump from age to age. I saw my thirtieth, fortieth and fiftieth birthdays. I saw how I was different. I’m different now. If for no other reason than the glass is truly less than half full.

And most people my age…

They don’t even want to go out. There’s too much traffic, it’s a hassle, it’s too crowded. Whereas when you’re in your twenties, you live to go out. You’re dying to meet new people. You’re eating up life.

But even if you stay this way, other people do not.

Sure, there are some couples who stick together and appear to cruise, but if you get them to open up, you’ll find out that their marriage has been far from smooth, or is laden with problems that one of the partners may not even see.

And then there’s tragedy. Not only do your parents die, but sometimes your friends. Everything is so random. And those who don’t pay attention and take care of themselves…

You can live without health insurance in your twenties and get away with it. But after that?

And without insurance, without dental appointments, there’s attrition on the body, and like Warren Zevon you may find out too late that your demise is imminent. And bodies are like cars, they’re not made to last forever. Yours is gonna break down, they all do.

Yes, you wake up one day and you realize life has moved on. Hell, Mark Duplass is now in his forties, he’s got gray hair, he’s no longer the young sprite. There comes a time when you can no longer be the new thing. There’s always someone younger who comes along to replace you. We’re all gonna be replaced. And we’re gonna take so many of our icons and cultural references with us. You used to care about the stars, now you don’t even know who the people on the cover of the magazines are. Then again, in the internet era, most people don’t know who they are!

But to watch “Language Lessons” is to feel alive. To feel human. To be optimistic. To know that the loss of a person is so much more devastating than it’s usually portrayed, both on screen and off. Because like I said, most people only have one, and when that one person goes, not only are they gone, but so is your main artery of support.

So I’m watching “Language Lessons” and it’s not always riveting, then again, neither is real life. And you’re not quite sure where it’s going, which is also like real life. But the twists and turns tug at you, you become invested, and when it was all over, I turned to Felice and said THAT WAS AMAZING!