{"id":4102,"date":"2011-04-29T07:19:38","date_gmt":"2011-04-29T15:19:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lefsetz.com\/wordpress\/?p=4102"},"modified":"2011-04-30T07:54:00","modified_gmt":"2011-04-30T15:54:00","slug":"the-royal-wedding","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lefsetz.com\/wordpress\/2011\/04\/29\/the-royal-wedding\/","title":{"rendered":"The Royal Wedding"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m watching it.<\/p>\n<p>And I&#8217;m just as surprised as you.<\/p>\n<p>I live in the U.S.\u00c2\u00a0 We recoil at the concept of royalty.\u00c2\u00a0 Wills is likable.\u00c2\u00a0 Kate is cute, albeit a cipher.\u00c2\u00a0 But I&#8217;m reminded of nothing so much as my own wedding, and the feeling of hope, of being completely in the moment, of the sense that something is beginning.<\/p>\n<p>I got divorced.<\/p>\n<p>Actually, I contemplated disengagement during the reception.\u00c2\u00a0 But in retrospect, I know that I never would have left her.\u00c2\u00a0 She left me.\u00c2\u00a0 And that was a long time ago, even though at times it feels like yesterday, and I don&#8217;t want to get back together, but I long for that feeling of optimism, that life is in front of me instead of behind me.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe Kate Middleton is fully alive.\u00c2\u00a0 Ready with a wisecrack, livening up the party.\u00c2\u00a0 Or maybe she&#8217;s introverted and hard to please.\u00c2\u00a0 And Wills is in for a life of regret.<\/p>\n<p>And how can you trust anyone who marries a royal anyway?\u00c2\u00a0 Is it true love or is it about the status, the money&#8230;you know you can never separate these elements from the man.<\/p>\n<p>And I want to be there.\u00c2\u00a0 Not to stand by the road and gawk, but to hang with Richard and Harry and have a fully English experience.\u00c2\u00a0 It&#8217;s daytime there but nighttime here.\u00c2\u00a0 I feel like I&#8217;m just a step behind.\u00c2\u00a0 The way I feel in the U.K. and Europe that I&#8217;m just a step ahead.<\/p>\n<p>The commentary is inane.\u00c2\u00a0 Non-experts revealing what&#8217;s already known or should remain unknown.\u00c2\u00a0 There&#8217;s no exploration of the inner feelings, that concept of both being in the moment and standing beside yourself watching as the clergy asks you if you do.<\/p>\n<p>If Kate has cellulite, I can&#8217;t see it.\u00c2\u00a0 What do they say, youth is wasted on the young?\u00c2\u00a0 I&#8217;d say it&#8217;s all downhill from here, but you get smarter, yet as you age fewer and fewer care about you, you fade into history before your time is done.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m getting that feeling of hope inside as I watch.\u00c2\u00a0 It&#8217;s being rekindled when I didn&#8217;t believe it was dormant, but dead.\u00c2\u00a0 I&#8217;m looking back and not asking for a do-over, but feeling that I could be that age and walking down that aisle once again, with hope and opportunity in front of me.<\/p>\n<p>And I come from the Joni Mitchell school of relationships.\u00c2\u00a0 We don&#8217;t need no piece of paper from the city hall keeping us tied and true.\u00c2\u00a0 Relationships are in your mind.\u00c2\u00a0 But when you stand up and testify in front of family and friends it&#8217;s different.\u00c2\u00a0 The legality causes you to cast aside your old kit bag and start anew, with someone you know so well but on some level not at all.<\/p>\n<p>Is this the way it&#8217;s supposed to be?\u00c2\u00a0 Two people together forever?\u00c2\u00a0 And if not, why do we go through the motions, if divorce is such a ready alternative?<\/p>\n<p>Something inside me died with my divorce.\u00c2\u00a0 An innocence.\u00c2\u00a0 A belief that I could conquer the world.<\/p>\n<p>But somehow, watching the royal wedding, it&#8217;s being revived.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m watching it. 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