Do you tell your lover everything?<\/p>\n
I was hiking in the mountains last Sunday night listening to my Wendy Waldman MP3s.\u00c2\u00a0 I’m recovering from a pinched nerve in my back and I’ve been overwhelmed and I was testing my body and I just couldn’t handle anything new, I needed to hear the music of an old friend.<\/p>\n
What stunned me was I suddenly understood the lyrics.<\/p>\n
Oh, I’d always gotten the words.\u00c2\u00a0 But decades later, as an adult, I understood the situations.\u00c2\u00a0 Of lovers leaving, wondering if they’re ever going to come back.\u00c2\u00a0 Of telling others to stay away.\u00c2\u00a0 About coming to California and wondering what will be.<\/p>\n
The singer-songwriters of yore were wise beyond their years.\u00c2\u00a0 How did they know so much about life?<\/p>\n
And driving west on Olympic earlier this afternoon I heard Carly Simon’s "We Have No Secrets" on Sirius XM’s The Bridge.<\/p>\n
Time has not been kind to Ms. Simon.\u00c2\u00a0 An iconic star in the early seventies, she’s been forgotten since.\u00c2\u00a0 One could question her output, but the fact that she refused to go on the road contributed to her obscurity.<\/p>\n
But there was that one moment, at the end of ’72, when not only could you not escape "You’re So Vain" on the radio, but you didn’t want to.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s the "…Baby One More Time" of the seventies.\u00c2\u00a0 Yes, Britney Spears might have questionable talent, but I immediately went out and bought the album and I’m proud of it, because that’s a killer cut.\u00c2\u00a0 Enhanced, of course, by Britney shaking her tits in that dance move in the video, but "…Baby One More Time" stands tall without the clip.<\/p>\n
"You’re So Vain" is a masterpiece.\u00c2\u00a0 Credit Richard Perry.\u00c2\u00a0 From the intro to Carly’s growl to Mick Jagger’s backup vocal everything is in the right place, enhancing each and every other part.\u00c2\u00a0 And "You’re So Vain" being so good, I bought the album, even though I owned none of Ms. Simon’s previous work.<\/p>\n
And back then you played the complete album.\u00c2\u00a0 Because "No Secrets" was only thirty six and a half minutes long and we believed artists had something to say.\u00c2\u00a0 I played the rest of Britney’s debut, just to be sure, but only once.\u00c2\u00a0 I played "No Secrets" numerous times.\u00c2\u00a0 And the second best cut is the title track, "We Have No Secrets".<\/p>\n
I get it, you’ve got no secrets, next!<\/p>\n
But back in the early seventies I truly had no secrets.\u00c2\u00a0 I had plenty of stories, but nothing I wouldn’t share.\u00c2\u00a0 I was just dying to have a woman to tell them to, the question of editing didn’t enter the picture.\u00c2\u00a0 But today…<\/p>\n
We have no secrets<\/span> I went through a transformation after my divorce.\u00c2\u00a0 I held nothing back.\u00c2\u00a0 But when I reconnected with my ex she didn’t agree with my newfound philosophy, she didn’t believe in hurting people, and even though we’d been separated for years I was wounded hearing the people she’d slept with since.\u00c2\u00a0 You see she’d once been mine.\u00c2\u00a0 Exclusively.\u00c2\u00a0 Now… So I’m sitting at Felice’s dining room table revealing my romantic history and as I’m talking she’s becoming more and more quiet.\u00c2\u00a0 Doesn’t the fact that I’m revealing my previous history illustrate my trustworthiness, our connection?<\/p>\n But every once in a while when we’re driving down the street and she points out where she lived with this person or that I wince.\u00c2\u00a0 I want to know, but I don’t. If the relationship was that good, we’d still be with them.\u00c2\u00a0 But we’re not.\u00c2\u00a0 And we say why.\u00c2\u00a0 But on a certain level the other person just does not believe us, they think we’re sugarcoating the truth.<\/p>\n Not only do I tell the truth, I believe it’s best if the secrets come out.\u00c2\u00a0 It’s only history.\u00c2\u00a0 It can’t be denied.<\/p>\n But however much you share you can’t share it all.\u00c2\u00a0 As much as we want to be close, on certain levels we remain distant.<\/p>\n But then there are those moments when we tell our stories and feel understood and accepted and we feel warm all over.\u00c2\u00a0 That’s what we’re looking for.<\/p>\n In the name of honesty, in the name of what is fair<\/span> Now I’ve got so many romantic bruises I wonder if I’m even lovable.\u00c2\u00a0 When I first heard "No Secrets" I was optimistic, relatively unscathed.\u00c2\u00a0 I didn’t know that the older we get the more we grow apart.\u00c2\u00a0 But only by telling our secrets can we grow back together.<\/p>\n We have no secrets<\/span>
We tell each other everything<\/span>
About the lovers in the past<\/span>
And why they didn’t last<\/span><\/p>\n
We share a cast of characters from A to Z<\/span>
We know each other’s fantasies<\/span>
And though we know each other better when we explore<\/span>
Sometimes I wish<\/span>
Often I wish<\/span>
That I never knew some of those secrets of yours<\/span><\/p>\n
And later when you told me<\/span>
You said she was a bore<\/span>
But sometimes I wish<\/span>
Ofttimes I wish<\/span>
That I never never knew some of those secrets of yours<\/span><\/p>\n
You always answer my questions<\/span>
But they don’t always answer my prayers<\/span>
And though I know you say that it’s me that you adore<\/span>
Sometimes I wish<\/span>
Often I wish<\/span>
That I never, never, never knew<\/span>
Some of those secrets of yours<\/span><\/p>\n
Telling each other most everything now…<\/span><\/p>\n\n