{"id":19823,"date":"2023-06-20T17:29:34","date_gmt":"2023-06-21T01:29:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lefsetz.com\/wordpress\/?p=19823"},"modified":"2023-06-20T17:29:34","modified_gmt":"2023-06-21T01:29:34","slug":"romantic-comedy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lefsetz.com\/wordpress\/2023\/06\/20\/romantic-comedy\/","title":{"rendered":"Romantic Comedy"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>https:\/\/tinyurl.com\/yc3anpmh<\/p>\n<p>This book is mind-blowingly good.<\/p>\n<p>But you won&#8217;t feel that way at first, you&#8217;ll think it&#8217;s a trifle, a direct lift of &#8220;Saturday Night Live,&#8221; akin to Curtis Sittenfeld&#8217;s book about Hillary Clinton, &#8220;Rodham,&#8221; wherein she breaks up with Bill before marriage and a different story ensues. I mean &#8220;Rodham&#8221; is a good read, but it&#8217;s light.<\/p>\n<p>Whereas &#8220;You Think It, I&#8217;ll Say It,&#8221; Sittenfeld&#8217;s collection of short stories, is oftentimes dark, and gripping. &#8220;You Think It, I&#8217;ll Say It&#8221; is the best short story book I&#8217;ve ever read. I keep recommending it to people but they don&#8217;t read it, primarily because they&#8217;re turned off by short stories, and I understand that, but this is different.<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, I read everything Sittenfeld writes. Beginning with her debut, &#8220;Prep.&#8221; I&#8217;m a sucker for these boarding school tales. Can I tell you that I love &#8220;Dead Poets Society&#8221;? Although I went to public school, I went to college with a lot of prep school students. Prep school changes you. Teaches you how to fit in, but when eyes are looking the other way, no one is wilder than a prep school graduate.<\/p>\n<p>So &#8220;Romantic Comedy&#8221; is Sittenfeld&#8217;s new one, released in April. I haven&#8217;t felt the buzz, but it&#8217;s got four stars on Amazon with thousands of ratings, so people are reading it, I just don&#8217;t find people talking about it. Because&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>People don&#8217;t know how to talk about love. Or they don&#8217;t want to, it makes them squirm. Yet it&#8217;s what all of us want, so it&#8217;s a conundrum.<\/p>\n<p>So Sally is a writer at &#8220;Night Owls,&#8221; the late night sketch comedy run by Nigel, who&#8217;s a direct lift of Lorne Michaels. She&#8217;s been there for years, and how she got there is very interesting, I won&#8217;t spoil it, but let&#8217;s just say you&#8217;d be surprised who doesn&#8217;t understand your dreams, never mind support them.<\/p>\n<p>And Sally doesn&#8217;t want to be on camera.<\/p>\n<p>And she&#8217;s divorced, but she&#8217;s got a f*ck buddy, she has needs. And she&#8217;s 38, and she&#8217;s not planning to leave the show and then&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>A rock star is the host. And the musical guest. And he comes in with his own sketch, and Sally helps him hone it.<\/p>\n<p>One of the big themes of the book is whether you can date out of your league. The guys at &#8220;Night Owl&#8221; run with the female celebrities, but can the women? If you&#8217;re average-looking can you date a gorgeous celebrity? Sally even writes a sketch about it.<\/p>\n<p>So, Sally feels something from the rock star, Noah, but does he feel it too? And I&#8217;m not talking about the Peter Frampton song, then again it&#8217;s not a bad soundtrack, because the song is ultimately optimistic, which is what you&#8217;ve got to be to fall in love.<\/p>\n<p>So Sally is reading the signs. But is she the only one reading them? Does anybody else notice them? Can she even discuss them with anybody else?<\/p>\n<p>You don&#8217;t want to snuff the inner flame, you don&#8217;t want people to laugh at you, so you suffer&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And then, when it looks like something might happen between Sally and Noah, when she&#8217;s about to find out if he really is into her, she unconsciously says something to push him away. This is not uncommon, I&#8217;ve done it. I&#8217;ve had tons of therapy to analyze it. Now I&#8217;m aware. But ultimately, the anxiety gets to you and your instinct is to go back to your happy place, alone, even though it&#8217;s not that happy.<\/p>\n<p>And then&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Correspondence begins during lockdown, and&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>This isn&#8217;t much different from how I met Felice. I met her, felt something, wasn&#8217;t sure if she did, and then months later we connected via fast and furious e-mail and then&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>This is the way romance is in the twenty first century. I&#8217;m not talking about Tinder, I&#8217;m not talking about married couples, I&#8217;m not even talking about young &#8216;uns. But once you&#8217;ve been around the block, Sally&#8217;s been married, been hurt a few times, how do you navigate the waters? Get old enough and people become afraid to jump in. Sally is not that old.<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s so much wisdom, baked in to this easily read book. It&#8217;s anything but heavy, but then again it is. It&#8217;s the anti-Iowa Writers&#8217; Workshop book, you know, rewritten to impress fellow writers, as opposed to writing something the public will truly enjoy reading. Maybe that&#8217;s why there&#8217;s not more ink on &#8220;Romantic Comedy,&#8221; because the intelligentsia, the publishing cognoscenti, look down upon it, it&#8217;s not dense with incomprehensible adjectives, there&#8217;s not endless depiction of the scene, it&#8217;s not removed from real life, but rather it is real life.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, you can read about real life, but it&#8217;s not the same as living it.<\/p>\n<p>And I was just about to quote some truisms from the book, that struck me, but now I&#8217;ve decided not to, I&#8217;ve already told you too much.<\/p>\n<p>Once again, if you&#8217;re addicted to nonfiction, don&#8217;t read this.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re a guy&#8230; You&#8217;re on your own. Chances are you never talk about this stuff and maybe can&#8217;t even own it yourself. You&#8217;re so busy bucking up, being one of the guys, a bro, that you can&#8217;t be sensitive. But you&#8217;ve got to be sensitive to have a relationship, a real one.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re a woman, I think you&#8217;re much more likely to love this book.<\/p>\n<p>Then again, there will be guys who love it and women who hate it, that&#8217;s what makes the world go round.<\/p>\n<p>And I&#8217;ll save further clich\u00c3\u00a9s, I&#8217;ll just say that &#8220;Romantic Comedy&#8221; sits with me in a way other books do not. I can relate to it. I think the writer is not that different from who I am, she understands me.<\/p>\n<p>And she just might understand you too.<\/p>\n<p>Check it out.<\/p>\n<p><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>https:\/\/tinyurl.com\/yc3anpmh This book is mind-blowingly good. But you won&#8217;t feel that way at first, you&#8217;ll think it&#8217;s a trifle, a direct lift of &#8220;Saturday Night Live,&#8221; akin to Curtis Sittenfeld&#8217;s book about Hillary Clinton, &#8220;Rodham,&#8221; wherein she breaks up with Bill before marriage and a different story ensues. 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